I love this!
Hebrews 10:35-36
So do not throw away this confident trust in the Lord. Remember the great reward it brings you! 36 Patient endurance is what you need now, so that you will continue to do God’s will. Then you will receive all that he has promised.
I've never come across this verse before, but I'm praying for 'patient endurance'... just set the first appointment to sign paper work and complete prelim testing for the clinical trial.
Sunday, November 17, 2013
Sunday, November 10, 2013
Uncharted Territory
If you’ve followed my blog over the past 3 years you know that my
self-proclaimed life’s journey has been a path which includes transplant – it’s
been the Emerald City on my yellow brick road of life. This year my focus has
become far less about the destination and more about the journey – and what a
journey it has been!
Nearly 4 years ago doctors started preparing me for the reality that I
was losing my transplanted kidney. Years
of chronic rejection, acute rejection and wear-and-tear had taken its toll over
time and three years ago this December I started Hemodialysis. During that time I was humbled by the amount
of friends and family that showed up to be tested – I don’t think I could ever
fully describe how it feels to have someone exhibit that level of willingness
to sacrifice a part of themselves on my behalf – Or express my gratitude to
them or the countless others who’ve prayed faithfully for me these many
years. I’m blessed to sojourn with people
whose lives reflect Jesus!
Out of the 15+ people tested, two were close enough matches to go through
the full battery of testing, and one emerged the best match – a total stranger.
As the day of my transplant neared I had all my ducks in a row –
everything was going according to my plans.
I was on such a spiritual mountain – praising God for bringing me to my desired
outcome. I felt like I’d paid my dues
with dialysis and was ready to be rewarded for my patience. One particular moment is etched in my memory –
I was marveling at all that God had taught me in my experiences and asking Him
to help me trust Him and for greater patience…. I feel like I need to add a
disclaimer here – BE CAREFUL WHAT YOU ASK FOR!
Less than a week later, my plans went horribly arry and God blessed me with an opportunity
(multiple, really) to use patience.
In the span of three months my transplant was cancelled twice, I had an
appendicitis with exploratory surgery followed by a massive infection. I had to return to hemodialysis and experienced
cardiac arrest during a dialysis treatment.
Did I mention I also lost my job? I had long-since left the spiritual
mountaintop and was camped out in a valley below sea level. I was seriously
questioning God’s overestimation of my abilities to withstand the events in my
life.
But God is faithful and even in the depths of my discouragement I
continued to hold onto hope. I clung to
these verses:
- Be
joyful in hope, patient in affliction, faithful in prayer. Romans
12:12,
- He lifted me out
of the slimy pit,
out of the mud and
mire; he set my feet on a rock and gave me a firm place to stand. Psalm
40:2
- We
are hard pressed on every side, but not crushed; perplexed, but not in
despair; 9 persecuted,
but not abandoned; struck down, but not destroyed. 2 Corinthians 4:8-9
I bided my time
at in-center dialysis – I was politely hostile to the staff and consumed by
looking forward to healing enough to switch to home dialysis and recuperate
enough to get back on the path to transplant.
The final blow
to my plans came while I was lying on an exam table, with his hand wrist deep
in my abdomen, my surgeon informed me that my antibodies had rocketed to levels
that made my donor’s kidney incompatible with my body.
In some ways it
feels like I’ve lived a lifetime in the last three years. I’ve had a lot of experiences I hope never to
repeat, but I wouldn’t trade the lessons I’ve learned or the blessings that
resulted from those events.
They say hind
sight is 20-20 – well here’s my hindsight.
God’s plans for my life are so much better than my own. All the while I was making plans I only had
the small picture, but God saw the bigger picture – He’s orchestrated events so
magnificently, in a way only He could.
If I had
received my donor’s kidney in May 2011 when it was originally scheduled, and
later had an appendicitis, it is likely I would have lost the transplant and
possibly my life.
By no longer
having the expectation of getting her kidney, a once stranger, has become a
dear family friend and an immense blessing in my life!
I returned to
in-center dialysis early this year following a wicked tricky infection. I kept ending up in-center – 3 times in 2
years… seems to me maybe I had something to learn. God has worked on my heart in so many
ways. He’s knocked down the walls of
discontent and hostility. When I became
less self-involved I realized it really wasn’t all about me. When my focus shifted to Christ’s purpose
instead of self-pity I found joy unspeakable and purpose.
And once again,
God has opened the door to transplant. Its
really beyond my comprehension, but to my utter AWE that God has brought me to
the place I’m at today. I’ve been
offered the opportunity to participate in a Clinical Trial to test an
experimental therapy. The purpose of the
study is to test a medication which has shown some promise in preventing AMR
(Antibody Mediated Rejection) in
patients who are highly sensitized to their donor (high antibody levels).
All this last
week I struggled with making a decision – I have trouble choosing where to eat
lunch – this was a tad more pivotal decision than tator tots vs curly fries. I was nearly paralyzed with the fear that I
was going to make a decision contrary to God’s will for my life. I read and re-read the 15 pages of risks,
potential benefits and required trial commitment. I talked to people smarter than myself and
prayed and read my Bible – wishing God would start text me the answer.
Among the
people I went to for counsel was my friend, who is also the potential donor –
she asked me this question. ‘How did we
get here?’ Here’s the facts:
1.
I’m at an out-of-state transplant
center that I only went to because my local transplant center closed.
2.
This center is one of less than 50 centers
world-wide chosen to participate in this trial, making a treatment available to
me that I could never afford on my own
How did I get here – well I can tell you with surety – It didn’t
happen by chance!
I think I already knew what God was providing for me, but
even with the best intentions I still struggle with the fear of the
unknown. Friday, I placed the call to
agree to participate in this trial and made my first official step into the
Unknown. I didn’t get a Heavenly text to
confirm I was making the right choice, but the Lord has blessed me with a
Philippians 4:7 peace – ‘surpassing all understanding to guard [my] heart and
mind through Christ Jesus’. And I did
get a text this week that just confirmed for me that this is the path Christ
has set before me…. My donor texted me to call her – when I did she told me that
during a business function her husband had been placed next to the new director
of transplant at the previously closed home-town transplant center. He had come from the transplant center I’m
now established at and was speaking glowingly of their transplant surgeon,
namely the one conducting this Clinical Trial… That was all the confirmation I
needed.
Not everybody will understand my decision to be a guinea pig
– It wasn’t a decision I made lightly and I don’t have any delusions of
grandeur, but my goal has shifted and my overriding desire isn’t simply a
healthy transplant – awesome as that would be, my ultimate desire is to follow
God’s will for my life and to be used by Him for His greater purpose – but I
can’t expect God to answer my prayer to guide my path unless I’m willing to
move my feet. Consider this one very big
step.
I have a lot of unknowns ahead of me – but my emotions and
the situations in my life don’t change the faithfulness of my God. I’m working on compiling God’s promises
(verses), so that I will be prepared when I hit potholes and valleys along this
new leg of Uncharted Territory – would you help me? I’d love to know what verses you claim for
encouragement or anxiety-busting promises! Here’s one I hope encourages you today -- Jeremiah 29:11 For I know the plans I have for
you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm
you, plans to give you hope and
a future.
Sunday, November 3, 2013
Give
thanks to the Lord, for he is good;
his love endures forever.
his love endures forever.
When
hard pressed, I cried to the Lord;
he brought me into a spacious place.
6 The Lord is with me; I will not be afraid.
What can mere mortals do to me?
7 The Lord is with me; he is my helper.
I look in triumph on my enemies.
he brought me into a spacious place.
6 The Lord is with me; I will not be afraid.
What can mere mortals do to me?
7 The Lord is with me; he is my helper.
I look in triumph on my enemies.
8 It is better to take
refuge in the Lord
than to trust in humans.
than to trust in humans.
Psalm
118:1,5-8,14
I'm in the process of re-reading the 15-page drug trial information packet -- It brings back memories of nursing school -- similar feelings too... No where in all my reading have I found a list of the side effects of reading this... bewilderment, overwhelming feelings of fatigue, blurred vision and sore behind. I would appreciate your prayers for my wise discernment and decision-making. Extra credit for any of my nursing friends who would be willing to check out any peer-reviewed journal articles related to the drug ECULIZUMAB.
Saturday, November 2, 2013
Don't Poke the Guinea Pig!
Tuesday my family, my potential donor and myself met for a
family meeting with my transplant center staff and doctors. I was the topic of conversation.
It’s a little bizarre to know clinical facts, statistics and
science… it’s a whole ‘nuther ball of wax to live it. The doctor stood at the white board with his
invisible marker (or maybe I was supposed to wear 3-D glasses – all I know is
he was writing, but I couldn’t see it – Maybe all their budget goes into
transplant supplies…). He furiously
sketched out my statistics.
At my current PRA (antibody measurement) of
88% (best is 0, worst is 100), my statistical chance of getting a kidney is
5%/year – estimated 10 year wait on the deceased donor list. By joining the paired-donor exchange list it
increases my odds of getting a kidney by about 2-3%/year – estimated 7-8 year
wait for a kidney.
He was really honest and clear – It was all things I knew,
but I appreciated his tendency to not beat around the bush… After discussing my current transplant
options and the life expectancy of dialysis (some people can live up to 25
years, but the average life span on dialysis is 5 years). The Doctor presented me with a 4th
option – participating in a drug trial.
This 4th option is offered to a limited
population of highly sensitized patients and comes with a lot of risks and
potential benefits.
It’s a lot to think about, I’m still working on the stack of
information they sent me home with -- Yesterday’s reading included the full-page,
single-spaced risks, side effects, warnings and legal disclaimers sheet. It’s enough to get my inner guinea pig dancing
– if I had a tail it would be wagging, no, wait, that’s just one of the side
effects… Have you ever watched a drug
commercials, wondering what would possess a person to take a medication when
the list of potential side effects sound more alarming than the initial problem?
It’s a balancing act between treating the original problem and dealing with the
subsequent problems that arise as a result of the treatment. As I was reading the list of potential
problems I started playing the risks assessment game – is that a side effect I
have now, have I had it before or am I willing to deal with it in the future..
Imagine my delight when I found a side effect/risk I know for certain I won’t
have to worry about – So glad to be a girl today!
We all make decisions that have a lasting impact on our
lives – this is mine.
There’s a lot to consider – I’m praying that the Lord will
guide my steps and that fear or doubt wouldn’t cloud my mind as I seek to
follow the path Christ has set before me.
My prayer throughout this long journey has evolved from – ‘A kidney’s
what I want, make that your will’ to (most of the time) ‘ Lord, let me desire
to be within your will and use my life for Your greater purpose’. In my quiet time this week I felt such an urgency to make the 'right decision' -- I was blessed when I came upon this verse during my quiet time - James 1:2-5 Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters,[a] whenever you face trials of many kinds, 3 because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance. 4 Let perseverance finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything. 5 If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you.
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